Book Boyfriend Dilemma

Marko, a soul partner.

Is it really cheating if you keep him between the sheets?

Falling in love is a wonderful thing. There is nothing like butterflies fluttering in our tummies and tingles dancing in our hearts when this magical emotion takes hold.

In fact, there are many benefits to being in love. Numerous studies show that these benefits are not only emotional, but physical as well. Simply put, being in love makes us happy. Happiness reduces our stress levels, which in turn boosts our immune system, heals our hearts, and even adds a glow to our complexion. Sounds like a win-win situation, right?

But, if we fall in love on Monday with a hard-working rancher who needs a woman to show him what a slow dance could do for the soul, Wednesday with an international tycoon who has a soft spot for raking the leaves at his great aunt’s home in order to catch a glimpse of the girl next door, and Saturday with the Dom who makes it his mission to meet your every carnal desire, are we truly committed to our book boyfriends or are we cheating on them with the next one?

Fine. I know you’re smirking, but you know it’s true. As readers and authors, we claim to be in a committed relationship with our books. And while that’s a true statement, for the most part, it’s not completely accurate. It’s more like we fall hard for our book boyfriends…for now…forever…plus, these boyfriends are so exceptional. How can anyone else compare?

Ford, sexy assurance.

Have you ever downloaded a book you’ve been waiting to read for ages, then just stared at your E-reader because you don’t want to finish the story too quickly and have to leave the characters too soon? I have. And it’s a real problem.

As an author, the root of this dilemma can splinter in two directions. The first, I’m so psyched to write the next book that I find myself changing files every few hours. Or, as is more common, I know the heroine, but the hero has still to reveal his true makeup, and I find myself still swooning over the hero in my last work.

It’s part of the writing process for a romance author, and we either need to breakup with the last book boyfriend or chose to believe that he’s so magnificent; he gives (or they give) us his blessing to let a new one into our hearts.

This happens continuously at my desk, and in writing each of the International Affairs stories. I encountered the same issue.

Justin and Paul, perfect together.

Marko from 26 Hours in Paris is my dream man. He’s a multi-layered, smoking hot best friend who is professionally competent and successful, considerate of those around him, a real family man, and totally committed to loving Kat. Oh, did I say he’s a bit arrogant and high-handed because he can be? He is. But the love for his woman sets it all in perspective.

Spoiler alert—but you already know this because 26 Hours in Paris is an erotic romance, and by definition romance means there is a happily ever after. Once Marko and Kat overcame their obstacles and were together, it was time for Charlie’s romance in book 2 of International Affairs, Four Nights at Sea.

Since Charlie is Kat’s BFF and coworker, I knew her from the very beginning. I knew her fears and hurts. I knew what she wasn’t looking for in a man. But other than his name, Ford was a complete enigma to me. I wanted him strong enough to soothe away her hesitations, and I knew he’d be wonderfully sexy and adventurous, but I wondered if it was cheating on Marko if I allowed Ford to whisper in my mind.

Not—Ford was worth it. He’s also drool-worthy, competent in a different way than Marko, and a take-charge kind of man who can’t resist Charlie. And of course, it’s only because of Charlie that his beliefs on the inevitable failure of romantic relationships are slayed. Yes, Ford is worth adding to my heart.

When the time came for book 3, One Week in Greece, I stared are the computer screen for days…fine, for weeks. I knew Paul and Justin from books 1 and 2, but the heroine was a complete mystery. A mystery until the thousandth rewrite of the opening chapter and the guys bumped into Justin’s first love on a ferry ride to Mykonos. The game was on. Miss Muse came out to play.

So by now, I’m guessing you know my answer to the original question posed: Is it cheating if you keep him between the sheets?

Not in my world. The sheets of paper in a book lend themselves to escape and dreams. And while I never forget a true love, there is always room for more love in my heart.

What about you? Do you face the same dilemmas with your book boyfriends?



Comments ( 15 )

  1. ReplyNickname ( required )

    Demialex - certain boyfriends in books are very lovable but, it. Probably occurs with you more often as you are writing about what you would like them to be like! When I read &, I read 1-2 books a day I use what you have told me about the character, he maybe isn't the type for me to fall for. The next one will be "yummy" but, not for me but, the female character. Hope this answers the question

  2. ReplyNicNor

    I love this article. I love the title, which I saw in the newsletter, which brought me here... I need a mug that says exactly that: Is is really cheating if you keep him between the sheets. AND I need a heat sensitized mug that will undress him as I drink! - but not too much my husband said to me... Or maybe he's laying on the bed and the heat will pull the sheets off!

  3. Replydemi

    Lol--I devour fiction. I read and listen to books of every genre, but you clearly can guess my favorite. As an author, I spend more than a few hours with the characters. They infiltrate days, weeks, sometimes months of my life, and I certainly fall in love with them. Romance novels are extra special--and book boyfriends (or girlfriends) are fantastic. Regardless of their shortcomings, love overcomes them all. And since we know they live in books and our minds, our significant others should only aspire to acquire similar traits! :-)

  4. Replydemi

    Okay, this is called recycling of feelings the easy way :-) Leave a comment and enter to win an Audible download from either moi, Demi Alex, or Aleka Nakis! I'm looking for preference on heat levels and hero types. Thanks so much! Audiobook prizes: The Greek Rule by Aleka Nakis Cuff Me Lacy by Demi Alex

  5. ReplyKerri

    I enjoy reading books that have great characters, great love, and great storylines. I hate reading a book that is nothing but fluff. Blah,blah, blah...Blah, blah. Steamy stuff enough, but not too much (I don't need to read about every time the characters have sex, just enough to understand the kind of bond or bondage they have together). Remember, there should be a storyline. In an audio book I need all the above and a pleasant person male or female to listen to. If there is a series that will have a different main character each book, it is nice to have a new reader to voice that new character. Even if I enjoyed the last reader.

  6. ReplySara

    Nope!!! I am totally a love them and forget them type of reader!! I seriously fall for them while I’m reading but I’m usually ready to move on to my next Book boyfriend.

  7. ReplySara

    Oh sorry! I just saw you’re looking for heat levels and hero preferences and not an answer to this blog question. As far as heat levels, I’m so varied!! I don’t read erotica that often unless something catches my attention majorly or I keep seeing the same book everywhere and see rave reviews. I’m more a lover of the sweet country boy that sweeps you off your feet. However, I also love the alpha males that take whatever they want, however they want. I’m also a HUGE fan of friends to lovers where your lover to be is your nerdy best friend. I’m a blogger too, specifically books and audiobooks at, so I will read anything and love it. The heat and hero just has to match the book. That’s all I want, a true book!!

  8. ReplyAdlove

    So funny to read this I guess I never looked at the it from this prospective before but it’s does get hard sometimes. You feel pulled and rugged I actually have to take mini breaks cause you get so wrapped up in the book boyfriends some of them are so much of what really life should be life lol.

  9. ReplyTami

    No, I do not call it cheating if it's from a literary standpoint. The book boyfriend. I tend to give low reviews to the books with cheating in them however LOL.

  10. ReplyChris

    Book boyfriends are wonderful. I particularly love just the right mix of pure love/romance, with the accompanying "heat". I tend to agree with "Adlove" above that they are so much of what real life should be.

  11. ReplyAnn

    Ok on some days I like a lot of heat and on some a little. If I have time and it's cool enough I Wii curl up with my lap quilt and a cup of hot chocolate. That's when a lot of heat is sooo good.

  12. ReplyFlutterby

    There's no such thing as cheating when it comes to book boyfriends. 😁 They know our love is eternal even if they must share us with a multitude of others. There's always enough love in our hearts for one more.

  13. ReplyErrynB

    I'm a purist - if you're exclusive, you're exclusive. Of course if you're poly, that's a whole other story. And meages ar just hot.

  14. ReplyELF

    I like heat. It doesn't have to be erotic (although I have no problem with that), but I do like to open the bedroom (or whatever room, lol) door. My heroes just have to have a sense of humor and loyalty (so, no, I don't like cheating). Thanks for the giveaway.

  15. Replydemi

    Thank you , all for your comments. I so enjoyed reading them. Sara and Kerri, You're today's winners. Email me at which audible download you prefer and I'll send you a code. I'll pick more winners over the weekend, so friends who were not chosen today will remain in the running. New entries are welcome. Just to be clear, I also don't appreciate cheating by my hero or heroine. A multiple partner relationship is something different though. I found it a tricky line to walk when I wrote about Justin, Paul, and Bethany in ONE WEEK IN GREECE--but honestly, they all worked. I fell in love with each of them. We're discussing how we, as readers, become so attached to the characters in the story and find it difficult to let them go. I know I do--both as a reader and an author. A good hero is real difficult to close the book on. I'll check back tomorrow for more of your insights. :-) Hugs! Demi

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